If you have a dream. What do you do to reach it?



July 22, 2010

Stop to complaint NOW!!!

Firstly, sorry for my desaperance. I had some problems. But now everything is okay again.

Today I'll talk about plaints.
Who is that never complained about something?
It can be about weather, your job, your husband/wife and anythings else.
But it's scientifically proved that complaining can even harm your health.
I'll explain you...

Everyone complains all the time for several reasons. Actually, it works like a magnet. The more you complain  more bad things you are attracting to your life.
Okay, that's like law of attraction. It argues that thoughts (conscious or unconscious) can affect things outside the head.
The law of attraction became popular after the release of "The Secret". It's available in a book or even a movie. See it and you will understand why I have been talking about positive thoughts.
I've been sure about the law of attraction. However, sometimes I think: What can I do for attracting the good things I want?
It's not easy.
When you have a dream. For example, win a championship. You are almost ending the game and losing. Okay, this law says if you trust, and really trust, that you can win. You will win.
But like I said before, it's not easy. Wondering that you are losing, you just can't take away this feeling and then you will attract the defeat.
It works the same way with your plaints. Complaining about that thing you will attract more that thing to your life.
In another day, surfing on internet I found something interestant. It's a web site about a program for "A Complaint Free World".
What I got of it was that Bill Bowen developed a system to evade the complaints. This system ask you use a bracelet in one wrist and when you complain about anything just switch it to other wrist. That's a way to track your thoughts.
You can read more informations in this website: http://www.acomplaintfreeworld.org/
Take a look and tell what you think...

Then in the next post I'll give you some steps for a complaint free thoughts, okay?
See you soon.
Fabiola Garcia.

June 23, 2010

How fair has world been about you?

One thing everyone tells is: “The life isn’t fair”.
Today I’ll say a story for you. This story turns around a girl.
She was dreamer. Her biggest dream has been enter in a college. Then she has been a very good student in your high school life.
High school… maybe it’s worse stage in life of a teenager. Because it’s the time when you are massacring with matters, new informations, new subjects and then new and definitive decisions. That decision will take you to your future.
I know in USA the sequence of school is a little different than in Brazil. Here we study 8 years on basic school, subsequently 3 on high school. And after all, towards 5 or 6 years in the college.
The university is a so far dream for mostly people here. The government doesn’t offer us good opportunities. A large scale of Brazilian universities is private, and so expensive.
But anyway, there’s a govern program to offers to alumni’s high school that got a short familiar revenue a scholarship in a private school. Towards a knowledge test.
Well, that girl had been approval in that test. But when she went to take your position in this university. They talked to her she don’t. Why?
Because her familiar revenue outnumber about U$60. Yes, U$60 breaks off her dream of reality.
Who’s that girl? That’s me.
And if you thought I give up you are wrong. I’ll try again in this year. And now I’m working in a drugstore. That isn’t what I want to my life. It’s a little stressful sometimes. But you must learn how to be happy in your conditions.
When things go wrong as they sometimes will. When the road you're trudging seems all up hill. When funds are low and the debts are high. And you want to smile, but you have to sigh. When care is pressing you down a bit. 
Rest, if you must, but don't you quit. 
Life is queer with its twists and turns. As every one of us sometimes learns. And many a failure turns about when he might have won had he stuck it out.
Don't give up though the pace seems slow - You may succeed with another blow. 
Success is failure turned inside out - The silver tint of the clouds of doubt. 
And you never can tell how close you are. It may be near when it seems so far: 
So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit it’s when things seem worst that you must not quit.
Believe in yourself and all that you are.
Know that there's something inside you that is greater than any obstacle.

June 18, 2010

Maybe you still can save the world.

Today I moved on the focus of my blog. Just Today!
This subject is not less important than happiness. It's a part of it.
Everyone is tired of hear about Global Warming. But what are you doing for help the world in?
You must be thinking: That's nothing of my business.
Well. If it doesn't your business the world is coming to an end. That your kids maybe won't get water to drink. And that the weather is going to become unbreathable. So it's not your business.
But if you are woried about it. Keep reading this post...
Ps.: First. This another subject that contradict all that I said before. It's a sequence. Pay atention and you'll can see.

Global Warming
Look closely and you will see the effects of the climate change.
I guess I don't need to explain how it happens. Even because everyone is tired of Global Warming explanations. But if you still have doubts about it. Watch this video by National Geographic.




Now. You must be asking to yourself: What's that has to do with happiness?
How can you be happy when the world is pulling down?
This other video is one of my favorites by Madonna.



If you are still asking what it has to do with you. You probably don't have any sense about what is happiness.
Happiness is love yourself and your neighbours.
Fabiola Garcia.

June 03, 2010

Don't hand to others your power to be happy!


You, and only you, have power to become your dreams real.
But... it's not about dreams that we talking about now. However about happy. More specifically your happy.

Someway, for some reason. We usually blame other person, or even other issue, for our misfortune.
That's the way we have found to explain why things is not fine. Whatever.You always will got a pretext.
In this way, blaming another person, or thing. You are hand to them power to your happiness.
It's unacceptable. You have to take over about your life. It's a matter of opinion and SELF-LOVE.

What's SELF-LOVE? 
It's a important point. Wherein you love yourself and to be able to trust in your happiness.

First at all. Do you like yourself? Tha most people don't like themselves. It's the big problem.

When you love yourself. You can be happy with the littlest things. You don't need money or even other person. You just need feel like you were the best person of the world.
It can sound a little selfish. but it's real.

We have spending so much time worried about the future, bank account, job, partners, etc. Little things that is making you lose you self-esteem... and therefore your self-love.

Must you asking yourself "How to love myself?"
I'll give you some hints... Pay atention!

♥ Let go the WORRY - It is a horrible way to live a life filled with constant worrying. Worry does not help in any way. It can't, on its own, make things happen. Only wise actions can! So instead of worrying, spend time thinking about what you can do to help in the situation. If the situation is beyond your control,the forget about that. Things will come to be, if they are meant to be.

♥ Trust yourself - Have confidence in your abilities. Know that you have the ability to make important changes for yourself, for as long as you put your heart to it. You can also support yourself by visualizing desired outcomes. Make a list with your abilities.

♥ Forgive yourself - If you have made mistakes in the past that had caused you to feel less worthy, then you need to forgive yourself. All of us make mistakes; so there really is no need to beat yourself up over them. Or if you’ve been carrying around a baggage of emotional hurt because of a childhood trauma, learn to forgive yourself. Don't blame yourself for everything.

♥ Make positives affirmations everyday -  Post affirmations that can help raise your self esteem everyday. For instance, say this to yourself “I love and accept myself completely and unconditionally.” Read your affirmations out loud several times a day.

♥ Always thanks for anything  - Express gratitude for the person that you are. For instance, cultivate an appreciation for your strengths and gifts. Also, feel a sense of gratitude that you are alive and well, and fully capable of making a difference in your life.

♥ Learn to see beauty - When you learn to see beauty in every thing, you will also see beauty in yourself. Hence, stop to smell the flowers. Notice everything. Feel everything. The pink blush of the flowers in your garden, the greenness of the plains, the whisper of the gentle wind, or the myriad hues of an evening sky.

♥ Nurture your dreams -  Why deny yourself your dreams? When you nurture your dreams, you would love the life that you are leading. Every moment that you live is a joy because you are expressing yourself fully.

Above all believe that you can make a difference. So when you get to love yourself you'll be able to love everything and will achieve your happiness.

To help you can read and reflect about this affirmation:



“I am Me. In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me. Everything that comes out of me is authentically mine, because I alone chose it — I own everything about me: my body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions, whether they be to others or myself. I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears. I own my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes.


Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with me. By so doing, I can love me and be friendly with all my parts. I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other aspects that I do not know — but as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles and ways to find out more about me.
However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically me. If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought, and felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that which I discarded. I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do. I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive, and to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me.


I own me, and therefore, I can engineer me. I am me, and I am Okay.” 
Denis2005 Virginia Satir quotes (American Psychologist and Educator, 1916-1988)

LOVE YOURSELF!!



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May 30, 2010

10 essencial steps to your happiness

Hello Guys.
Like I said ahead. I don't know what I'm going to write about. But I'm here right now trying to develop something.
The theme of this blog is " The Happiness". Then, I'll start therewith.


• What's Happiness?
There are so many ways to define happiness.
It can be a humor shape or something more deeply.
It all depends from you.
Happiness is the most important subject of human history. Everyone wants to know the secret for this gift.
Yes. Happiness is a gift. A gift that everyone got. But a few of these getting use this gift accordingly.


So you ask me? How Can I use this gift accordingly?
It's easier than it seems.
I'll give you 10 essencial steps for this. Look.


1-) Don't worry - Foremost preoccupation is the least productive.


2-) Sing a loud song - That's a way to present you happiness and attract for more.


3-) Face one trouble at a time - be whatever it may, you just can treat one at a time.


4-) Don't revive the past - That was past. Live the now. Be happy now.


5-) Account all win - Remember for all good things that happens to you.


6-) Don't be afraid - about anything. The most part of your fears never happens. It just confuse your happiness.


7-) Love yourself - Firstly, it's incontestable. Only loving yourself you could  disseminate the love for the others.


8-) Try new things - Everyday make a new thing. Go to a different place, listen a new song. Whatever.


9-) Discover your strengths - You have to do it. And don't forget to use them.


10-) Have faith - believe that good things can come to you.


Finally, I dare you to believe that you are a wonderful, unique person. That you are a once-in-all-history event.
That life isn't a problem to solve, but a gift to cherish. And that you'll be able to make you and the rest of the world happy.


JUST BELIEVE!

May 28, 2010

Hapiness! How to do.

Hey guys!
I'm a Brazilian girl. I'm 18 years old.
I didn't have so much experience with blogs. But I'm gonna trying to take it up.
My English is a little poor. Then, Don't care with my mistakes.
I'll try to do the best of me.

This my old blog and now I turned it my new blog.
I'm still deciding what write here.
I got no time to big things.

I'll try to figure out something interest for you.
I'll be back so soon.
See ya!